“Any and every person can be part of my community, and they can be part of yours, thanks to social media and the technological landscape that most of us inhabit without thought of our commitments to being in those communities, digital spaces, or relationships. In contemplating community I ask myself, after sitting with the idea that my choice in staying connected is not limited to convenience or geography, how committed am I to being with others?
Staying committed to community, then, is where I think a lot of us stumble, myself especially.
Perhaps we are lucky, then, to have these tools that allow us to stay connected to all of our communities, some of which may be entirely digital. However, even in those digital communities we are still with other people. People, thanks to technology, that we can actively, willfully, and consciously, choose to be with.”
Always rely upon a happy mind alone. The measurement of having trained our mind is that we are always calm and happy. Before we have trained our mind, it changes according to our circumstances. When times are good, we are happy, but when they change for the worse, we become unhappy. Our mind is so unstable that it can change in an instant, one moment happy and excited and the next downcast and despondent. A controlled mind will remain happy and calm no matter what the conditions.
Hello everybody. I’m Brady, and this video is the first in a series about, “Having the talk.” Most of the times, the first conversation that is, “the talk,” is about moving from friends to more than friends.
Many times when you meet someone, you meet them as a friend, or as an acquaintance, maybe even as a friend of a friend, and it’s someone that you admire and like their company, but being able to move from that to something more important, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, a lover, is a risk. It’s acknowledging that although you like this person and who they are, you want more; you want a greater connection to them.
Being able to have that talk and transition from that relationship to a new one is a risk. Most of the times people want to rush that talk and simply say, “be my girlfriend,” “be my boyfriend,” “let’s date.” The talk, though, is a great opportunity, though, for you, in acknowledging this person as your friend to share what’s special about this person, what this person brings to your life, and how this person adds something wonderful to you and your world. That first talk can be something… magical, and I encourage it to happen in all of that fullness.
I wish I could give examples, specific ones about you and this person that you want to move from, “friends,” to, “more than friends.” However, I would say that for you to know and identify those feelings in yourself that are brought up when you are around this person, and share them, take that risk. That’s the talk.
So thank you for your time, and I wish you all the best in having that talk.
Passion. It lies in all of us. Sleeping… waiting… and though unwanted, unbidden, it will stir… open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us… guides us. Passion rules us all. And we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love… the clarity of hatred… the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion, maybe we’d know some kind of peace. But we would be hollow. Empty rooms, shuttered and dank. Without passion, we’d be truly dead.
“It makes sense that messages are mixed, for sharing words and grasping at words often happen at the same time. It is also hard to make sense of what is happening in our thoughts and especially in our sharing of words, because all to often our expectations of what we would like to hear drowns out what we are hearing.”
Painting is just another way of keeping a diary.
Friendships can be repaired, but they cannot go back to the way things were; they can only go towards a new way of relating, and a new realization about how deeply we affect the ones we are closest to.
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To feel deeply is to feel pain.